Gossip

I don’t like gossip and this is always a problem in every job I’ve had.  One of the things I really liked about my current job was that there weren’t many people who gossiped but that changed recently.  I don’t participate in gossiping and I don’t even want to hear it.  There is nothing to be gained from listening to it and I’m not the type of person that thrives off of someone’s misfortune.  This topic has been on my mind a lot recently and I listened to a talk about why people gossip.  I learned that there are three reasons why people gossip:  anger, life paths, and overwhelming shame.

Anger:  When people have a lot of anger or low self-esteem then gossiping about someone else can make them feel better about themselves.

Life paths:  This happens when one person becomes jealous of another person’s success.  They see how another person’s career or personal relationships are taking off and it makes them feel less than since they aren’t on the same level as that person.  Gossip becomes a mean of putting that person down and making them seem not as successful as they are.

Overwhelming shame:  This is when a person uses gossip to deflect from the overwhelming shame that they feel inside.

I believe that one of the ways to overcome gossiping is to invest in your own life.  Working on overcoming anger, low self-esteem, and shame takes time but it’s worth the intense work to become a confident person.  Setting goals and working on a career can help someone to develop a path in life.  It also helps to understand that not everyone has the same purpose in life and to follow your own path.

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